By Ariane Benefit
УThe surest way to detach from one outcome is to reattach yourself to a more empowering outcome: serving others, replacing a bad habit with a good one, or focusing on the present.Ф - Stephen Shapiro, Author, Goal-Free Living
This is true with decluttering as well. To help you detach from your stuff, so you can let it go, it really helps to focus on the empowering results you will achieve, how having less clutter will serve you, and what you really need in the "present". Clutter is often a result of being stuck in or unable to let of the past. It could be emotional, or just not taking the time to clear out stuff you don't need. Here are some examples of the positive outcomes you gain from clearing clutter:
To help you detach emotionally from sentimental items, try meditating on the following thoughts.
- A better family life with less fighting and stress
- More time to spend on things and people you really love
- Improved Relationships
- Able to invite people to your home without embarassment
- More energy
- More money
- Higher Self-esteem
- Less Stress
- Better health
- Easier to clean your home
- Eaiser to focus on your present and future goals
Letting go isn't easy, but if stay focused on your present needs and priorities, and learn to view your things with less emotion, you will be much happier. Mastering the art of letting go of your stuff is the ultimate in feeling in control of your life!
- Things are NOT people! When you toss or recycle something someone gave you, like a card, a souvenir, or a toy, you are not throwing away the person. The same is true of duplicate photos. You aren't getting rid of the person when you get rid of the extra photos.
- People don't expect you to keep everything they give you for the rest of your life. They give you things to make you happy, and if having too much stuff is making you unhappy, they surely would want you to pass the things on.
- Keeping old clothing from an era in your life so you can remember it can just as easily be done with a photo as with the thing itself. The thing about old clothing is that is needs to be cleaned regularly and stored properly or it will start to rot, turn yellow, attract moths and other bugs, collect dust mites and maybe even get moldy or mildewed. It can be really bad for allergies. Why go through this? Isn't it better to pass on clothing to someone who can use it rather that just let it rot?
- Often people want to pass things down to their kids. This can be great but set limits. I've seen whole basements full of "stuff my kinds might want in 25 years" Trust me, they won't want all their old baby clothes! Maybe a couple really cool games, but be choosy! Give the rest to someone who can use them now.
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Ariane Benefit, M.S.Ed., is a professional organizer, coach, author and speaker with over 25 years experience helping people reach new heights of productivity and success. Visit her popular "Neat Living Blog: Neat Ideas for Living" at http://www.NeatLiving.net for free organizing tips, home makeover photos and much more.